As an online dater, you have absolutely NO protection from some sketchy individuals who use dating sites to perpetrate fraud, run financial scams and, in some cases, cause actual harm to those people they meet online.
Just read the fine print tucked away in the corners of such sites or buried in a sea of “Terms and Conditions.” Here’s one example, excerpted from a highly popular dating site:
Check with law enforcement. Most United States municipalities have online databases to search incarcerations. You can access records to see if your potential beau has been arrested or incarcerated. These databases will return the information on someone's conviction, the time he served in prison and the conditions of his release.”
If you read that statement closely, it’s almost comical. The dating site is suggesting that its subscribers seek out local police records. I can just imagine Joe Dater walking into the local Police station and asking if their potential love interest has a criminal record. They won’t even disclose that information to me! And I have a Private Detective license!!
What’s even more ironic is that a date background check among civil court records (divorces, protection orders, bankruptcies, judgments, lawsuits, etc.) can provide more insight into a persons character than a criminal record check.
Here’s another excerpt from another dating site, which actually contradicts itself if you read it carefully:
“YOU ARE SOLELY RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR INTERACTIONS WITH OTHER MEMBERS. YOU UNDERSTAND THAT THE COMPANY CURRENTLY DOES NOTC ONDUCT CRIMINAL BACKGROUND CHECKS OR SCREENINGS ON ITS MEMBERS. THE COMPANY ALSO DOES NOT INQUIRE INTO THE BACKGROUNDS OF ALL OF ITS MEMBERS OR ATTEMPT TO VERIFY THE STATEMENTS OF ITS MEMBERS. THE COMPANY MAKES NO REPRESENTATIONS OR WARRANTIES AS TO THE CONDUCT OF MEMBERS OR THEIR COMPATIBILITY WITH ANY CURRENT OR FUTURE MEMBERS. THE COMPANY RESERVES THE RIGHT TO CONDUCT ANY CRIMINAL BACKGROUND CHECK OR OTHER SCREENINGS (SUCH AS SEX OFFENDER REGISTER SEARCHES), AT ANY TIME AND USING AVAILABLE PUBLIC RECORDS.”
The bottom line is that most, if not all, dating sites don’t want to address the issue of safety and checking backgrounds because, as one website executive told me, “it might be bad for business.”
My question – as self-interested as it may seem, but nonetheless valid – is why don’t online dating sites embrace the notion of date background checks? And, in doing so, forge mutually beneficial relationships with firms like ours that offer quality searches conducted by licensed, professional private investigators?
Some may view my questions above as shameless self-promotion. I would have to disagree. Our company is committed to the protection of all online daters – young and old, male and female, gay and straight – and online dating sites should embrace that commitment as well.
Without a doubt, online dating can be complicated and a bit nerve-wracking. So why not take the necessary steps to protect yourself…and potentially your loved ones, your home, your possessions and more?
If your favorite online dating site won’t, then you can. But only consider the services of licensed private investigators who have the resources and know-how to compile the most accurate, up-to-date background reports on the person you want to date. Dating Backgrounds does not deal in unnecessary or unhelpful information, but rather gives you the knowledge you need to make educated decisions regarding your potential short- or long-term beau.
Bottom line: We're committed to the education and protection of our clients!
Next time, how the 1st page of Google when looking for a date background check can be dangerous.